I am not a
particularly original person. And sometimes I wish I had taken a few more
original decisions in life than I actually did. Perhaps there will be a few
more chances, after the child is a bit more advanced in his life... Now being
not particularly original, I fall into the same trap every year as the
particular year draws to a close. Finishing mode – which is not too bad, as it
helps clear up a bit of clutter, gives UFOs a different kind of life(expectation),
and me a feeling of accomplishment.
And, of
course, looking back on what happened during the past year with a more or less
critical eye. I’ve been on the road in quilting and fabric selling quite a bit.
I had one quilt accepted to a major exhibition and was rejected from several
others. Overall, I guess, it has been a successful year.
Although I
do have to admit that I did not get very far with my great intention of
de-cluttering the studio which I announced in September. I even think I knew
then that not much would come of it. But I did take one step of rearranging the
immediate right hand corner next to my sewing machine, which tends to be the
accumulation point of stuff. Stuff, which is not necessarily needed there,
which attracts dust and more stuff, and which sometimes is a hindrance when I
reach for the wheel of the machine on the right hand side:
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| Before de-cluttering |
I cleared
that off, as I did with the surface of a little trolley which holds many of my
sewing threads and has the advantage of being on wheels, and which can be
rolled into position on my right side when I need these things, and pushed back
when it is in the way. Major achievement! Count that on the very positive side
of the successes during the year.
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| After de-cluttering. Hopefully not only a temporary condition... |
But because
the past few months have been emotionally draining it somehow doesn’t really
feel like it’s been a successful year. My husband has been struggling at work
quite abit, which always has an influence on the family. And ever since the
summer I have been asking myself ‘what is going on here?’
One part of
it I attribute to the fact that Germany
had the General Election in the fall. A lot of talk was going on about more
children’s day care centers, getting more women to join the work force
full-time (a large percentage of women working here only do so part-time, and a
low-paid jobs), establishing more and more schools where kids go for the whole
day – by far not the norm here yet. And it really made me feel insufficient. I
don’t go out of the house to work for somebody else, my little one-woman
fabric-dyeing business doesn’t have a wild surplus, I don’t give employment to
other people, and I do care about being at home in the afternoon when my child
comes home from school. I would not want to send him to afternoon care and only
get to see him in the evenings when everybody is tired. I am working, and not
only as the unpaid house-caretaker - but I am not working in a way that the
politicians think economically successful. But with all that political talk
suggesting that a good woman is only she who has made it to the top of some
major company and is successfully juggling everything, driving herself and
probably her family mad with overchallenging herself, I wondered how backward
my opinions have become over the years. (My younger brother used to call me the
feminist b.... when I was at university – now I am slowly approaching fifty and
seem to be an anachronism regarding my opinions...) I haven’t felt good about
it – although I do think I have taken the right decisions. They weren’t
particularly original, but the ones that the politicians would have preferred,
don’t seem particularly original to me, either.
I have also
been bothered more and more with the EU’s way of dealing with so many
situations. I don’t approve of their policies with refugees – I am ashamed that
the former recipient of the Nobel Prize for Peace looks on as hundreds and
hundreds of people drown right on their doorstep when trying to escape from
their unbearable situations at home. And the only answer the politicians come
up with is putting more money into fending them off. In the end of November I
listened to a radio report on the Jewish Refugee Children Movement, and how
those had helped tens of thousands of children escape Nazi Germany. Right after
that the news reported on the fact that by now hundreds of thousands of Syrian
children are displaced either within their country or in other countries, just
across the Syrian borders. And that Germany had graciously granted visa
to 5,000 Syrians. (By now that number has been doubled.) How much have we
learned from past history lessons? Nothing much, it seems.
Not to
mention ongoings in other countries such as financial cliffs, civil war in far
too many countries, natural disasters which still don’t teach us anything,
backlashes in human rights issues... Easy to get depressed!
So it is
easy to let a few months in the end of a year spoil the earlier successes.
Again, not very original. We have had a few nice days of sunshine – although too
warm for the season – but I won’t go on about it any more. In order to get out
of the end-of-year-slump it certainly makes more sense to go out and enjoy the
sunshine rather than lament that it’s there...
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| on the way to take a photo for my new tree-project |
